My crush! My first love!

My heart craved for that special hug that he always gave me then. His warm, masculine hug!

“Jude!” I exclaimed happily and I really couldn’t hide my joy as he came close to me.

“Can I?” He asked my husband as he stretched his hands to hug me.

“C’mon. My hubby aint a jealous man. Hug me!” I was almost screaming when he not only hugged me but swirled me up in the air while I screamed for him to put me down.



(A love story written by Oyekunle Lizzy Oyebola)

Jude was the first and last boyfriend I ever had before I got married to James.

We were so into each other that every one that saw us together thought we were going to end up together.

We were emotionally tied, we were academically tied and as accountants in the professional field, we were professionally tied too!

We ran the race of ICAN, ANAN and other accounting professional courses together.

He knew too well that being a carreer woman had been my aim since the start. I had wanted to practise on my own although working with a good firm before starting mine wasn’t that a bad idea.

I got married to James by divine intervention because along the way, I met Christ and He led me to my BEST!

One day, the day I will never forget, I was shopping at the Men’s section of Eko Mall when my phone rang and my husband asked me to meet him outside.

He was supposed to be at work!

I saw him close to his Lexus jeep but with a friend I had not seen in like five years of our marriage- Jude!

My crush! My first love!

My heart craved for that special hug that he always gave me then. His warm, masculine hug!

“Jude!” I exclaimed happily and I really couldn’t hide my joy as he came close to me.

“Can I?” He asked my husband as he stretched his hands to hug me.

“C’mon. My hubby aint a jealous man. Hug me!” I was almost screaming when he not only hugged me but swirled me up in the air while I screamed for him to put me down.

It was awesome and thrilling!

He just knew how to make my heart burst open with pleasurable excitement!

After exchanging pleasantries, I went to my husband’s side and he smiled at me lovingly as he pecked me.

His smile could calm a stormy sea!…hehehehe

“I met him at the park and he said he wants to see you so badly that I had to trace you here wifey” My husband said and I smiled.

I turned to look at Jude.

He was looking all fresh and well fed. There was no sign of the economic melt down on him at all.

“Erm, I am now the Accountant General of Pearls Agency, Worldwide” He said sweetly, slightly licking his lower pink lip.

“What!” I exclaimed after my heart had stopped beating for a while

That had been my dream agency!…Either Pearls or my own establishment!

I had submitted my CV severally to the company to no avail and James had told me that I should pray on to God to open doors for him so he could set me up. I had been trying on my part too anyways.

But its been five years and nothing had happened!

“The company needs a chartered accountant to occupy the post of a senior accountant 1 and I had searched and searched for your contact details to no avail…until I jumped into our bros today” He said and I was excited.

Was he going to choose me?

My heart raced on.

“Would you mind taking the post on? You have lots and lots of benefits. You and I would have enough time to cruise the whole world on a professional spree! We would achieve a lot together…You and I…” he kept on saying and I smiled, being carried away by his pink lips.

I turned to look at James and he was still looking at me, smiling as he knew how to do best.

“Don’t mind him o. Very naughty guy he is!” I said to James and the latter smiled, still looking into my face

“Do you want the job? Just a phone call from my end would give you the job. Just say yes!”

I was shocked and awed at the same time!

Was that supposed to be a blank cheque or something?

I was getting my desires on a platter of gold?

As I was processing how to give a resounding yes in my head, I heard it so calm and cool and the whole wide world stood still for a while.

“No! She doesn’t want the job!” James said and just like the slow motion in Korean movies, I slowly shifted my neck from Jude and looked into my husband’s cool face.

He looked so serious as he looked at James and he smiled as he looked at me.

“I wasn’t asking you Mr. James. I know men like you never want their wives to be better than them. I was asking Emmy. Emerald, for the last time, do you want the job? I will take your last answer for it” He said, looking so furious as if my husband had drawn the battle line.

And really he seemed to have!

Why would my husband say no?

He knew so well that I had loved this job more than anything else. He had prayed with me as regards it too.

What is he saying now?

I turned to look at James again as Jude gave his last opportunity.

James’ smile had melted and he looked from Jude to me and smiled a bit.

“Wifey, I love you and respect you alot and I know its reciprocal. The decision is yours to make although my answer remains no!” He said and shook his head slightly and moved to enter the jeep.

I was in a dilemma!

What exactly did I want?

But, was James really going mad? Was he? How could he choose what he feels over what I like? Why?

I looked into Jude’s face and he was smiling broadly.

I was confused and closed my eyes for a while till all I could see was stark darkness! Till I couldn’t hear the sound of the cars passing, till the only sound I could audibly hear was the sound of my heartbeat.

Lord, speak!




And slowly, I turned from my ambition, my first love, my past and walked towards the jeep where my husband was!

My husband jumped out of the car and started running towards me, smiling gleefully.

“She chose me! Just me! Yes, she chose me! I told him you might have been with him for years and all but your heart now longs for me, only me! He said we should see if the job and his fresh look wouldn’t make you go with him! He challenged me! He asked for a test! He asked for a test darling and I didn’t want to do it but I told him I would do it for him to see my wife’s submission to His will! Then, you listened to Him! YOu did!”

When did my husband become a talkative?

My face was already wet with tears as he spoke.

I had series of goosebumps as he spoke to me.

“Does it mean, there is no Pearl Agency Worldwide anywhere?” I asked and my husband held my hands together and smiled deeply.

“Nothing like that! It was a test! An expensive test! I thank God you passed! You chose me!” he continued excitedly and swirled me into the air too for the first time.

But I wasn’t smiling at all!

I was pained in my heart!

I had not passed the test really!…I had chosen the whole juice, pleasurable offer over James…I had!

Only speaking to God made me choose the best!

Tears clouded my eyes again!

Oh how he vouched for me!

Oh how he trusted I wouldn’t fail him!

Oh how!…

I wept on and on.

He dropped me to the ground, disregarded my tears and pulled me to the jeep. He opened the door and brought out a brown envelope from his briefcase. He opened and some photos fell. He picked them and hid them under the envelope while he unfolded a very long white paper.

I waited anxiously.

“This is it. I had started working on it..see..” he said as he showed me the paper works that I couldn’t comprehend. He noticed my confusion and folded the paper.

“See these” he said as he handed the photos to me and I collected them

A very big uncompleted building

“What’s this?” I asked

“Emerald Initiatives PLC building under construction!” He said excitedly and tears just jumped out of their ducts in quick succession out of my eyes!

“You’ve been working on that behind my back?” I asked in utter shock, falling further into fits of cries

“I’d always be working for my queen to be the best. Best among the best and gladly, she is just so submissive to love little me. Chai, the love has just began!” He helped me enter the jeep and planted a quick kiss on my tear stained lips.


Oh wait wait wait!

Yeah, I am here again to stop the story from going further till we have learnt what God wants us to learn.

1. Jude is the devil, James is Jesus! We dated Jude in the past and had lots and lots of sinful pleasures but now married to Jesus, we say bye!

2. Jude had been a lookout for Emerald even though she was married. Why now? Well, the defeated foe is forever doomed and he doesn’t want to go to hell alone. He is on the lookout for you and I no matter how long or how not long you became married to Jesus!

3. Jude was even courting Emerald stylishly in the presence of her husband! What audacity! Well, does that evil guy care? No he doesn’t! He can bring temptation anywhere to us, even in the church! Beware!

4. James was not going to talk too much. No is no. if you seek for any other option, that is now left to you. That is the same way God says He has set life and death before us. He thereafter urges us to choose life!

5. Jude was only testing Emerald to see her level of devotion and commitment to James over her ambitions and goals in life. If there is a chance for us to choose between what we loved doing most and God, sincerely, what would be our choices?

6. James didn’t drive off even after he had told her to do her wish. He stood right there in the jeep waiting for her. Even in temptation and trials of faith when God seems silent, He actually is there, waiting and sincerely wishing that YOU CHOOSE HIM!

7. Emerald closed her eyes in prayers while in dilemma. She was confused as she weighed the pros and cons. Who is our first port of call when we are in a triangle?

8. She also closed her eyes, mind, all, till nothing else mattered but His sure voice alone! Do we seek to listen at all? Do we? Above all the noise around, do we seek His voice?

9. Emerald chose to follow God’s will for her life. What about you? Have you sincerely waved at all pleasures and wants that are not in accordance with His will? Have you?

10. James jumped to his feet with joy as he was the chosen one! When next you are tempted, remember the smile of God that can calm the raging sea and chose right. You wouldn’t want that smile turn to frown, would you? He would run to hug you. Ask the prodigal son if he didn’t run. God runs to welcome a straying sheep.

11.Emerald was not going to be an employee! She was being designed to be a boss! Thank goodness she didn’t settle for less. What about you? You wanna settle for less than God?


15: Men, avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there, it is stupid, childish­ and dirty to do so, that is what is called lust, what is there is not different from what your spouse has, please don’t be stupid sir.

Pastor Bisi Adewale wrote…

Please note that you can avoid adultery, it is within your power to do it, if you really mean it, carelessness is one of the major cause of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error.
So follow these simple rules and you will never fall into adultery.

1: Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions

2: Never be with anybody of opposite sex at the time your spouse must never know you are there.

3. Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody, they will know you are not happy in ur marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.

4: Be proud to use your wedding ring outside, let them know you are married and proud to be.

5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/ husband you visited.

6: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIR thrive in secrecy.

7: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex, there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to, don’t dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

8: Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from opposite sex. They will ask for sex in return they are not Father Christmas.

9: Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife you don’t know what their spouses are enduring at home, what you are seeing outside is just a show biz don’t be deceived. Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

10: Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

11: Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other, it is only faces that are different, it is the same package.

12: Deal with any sexual thoughts that is not directed towards your spouse, kill it before it kills you. Sexual error do not begin in the bedroom, it begins in the heart.

13: If you are finding it difficult to deal with it, find a mature christian you can confide in and let the person pray with you, counsel you. Don’t die in silence.

14: Before traveling have sex with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have sex until you come back, that decision may save your life and destiny

15: Men, avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there, it is stupid, childish­ and dirty to do so, that is what is called lust, what is there is not different from what your spouse has, please don’t be stupid sir.

16: Walk in company with good and Godly men/women if you keep company with adulterer you will become adulterous.

17: Discuss your sexual desire with your spouse and let it be met at home, don’t hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow, your wife/ husband has the best, get it at home.

18: Fill your heart with the word of God always, this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

19:Memorize and Always remember Proverbs 6:32-33. “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away”.

20: Always count the cost of adultery, don’t just look at the pleasure, look at the pain, loss of integrity, how you will hurt your wife/­husband ,children, friends and above all GOD the Almighty.

21: Always remember that the enjoyment, pleas­ure and the thrills that is in sex is just 8 seconds or less, it can not be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity. Why trading eternity for 8 seconds, is there wisdom in that?


(Share this until it gets to all married couples you may be Saving a soul, may be a family)


18. A successful marriage is always a triangle : God, a man and a woman.


1.  Wedding is a day but marriage is a lifetime .
2.  A stingy man who is single will still be stingy when married.
3.  Silence . never be misquoted.
4.  If you want what no one has had, you must do what no one has done.
5.  When God wants to bless you, He puts a person in your life. When Satan wants to destroy you, he puts a person in your life.
6.  It is better to be single and alone than to be married to the wrong person.
7.  Avoid a contentious woman.
8.  3 men to avoid:
              a.   A hot tempered man.
              b.   A womanizer.
              c.    A drunkard.
9.  Marrying a comedian does not guarantee a happy marriage.
10. Never be yoked to anyone who will not be yoked to God.
11. 3 words that echo peace in a marriage:
            a.  I love you .
            b.  I am sorry .
            c.  Thank you.
12. Don’t waste your time meditating or dwelling on your singleness.
13. Cohabitation is a recipe for marital failure .
14. Deal with anti-marriage dreams.
15. Masturbation is destruction.
16. Marriage without friendship is like a sky without the sun.
17. If you rush into marriage, you may end up with someone who will bury your destiny.
18. A successful marriage is always a triangle : God,  a man and a woman.
19. Why you marry is as important as who you marry.
20. Much happiness in life depends on your marital choice.
21. A man needs divine wisdom from God in choosing who to marry.
22. Do not place your priority on good looks; no woman is ugly, she just needs rebranding.
23. 3 major characteristics to look for in a woman:
              a.  Fear of God.
              b.  Wisdom.
              c.   Discretion (beauty is vanity).
24. The best way to enslave a woman is to show her love excessively – as a rule, women don’t run away from where they’re pampered.
25. Love is not blind;
infatuation and lust are blind.
26. Love puts God first,
lust puts sex first.
27. Test every love with your peace of mind, if it is absent, God is not there.
28. If you are a true friend, you will attract true friends.
29. Caring hearts never lack caring hands.
30. Desperation leads to frustration.
31. Bad marriages can be avoided before they begin.
32. Keep yourself pure and your bed undefiled.
33. It is spiritual insanity to plan to convert someone so you can marry the person.
34. Wage war against the devil that fought your parents’ marriage.
35. Marriage is a covenant, always look before you leap.
36. It is better to be single and believing God to be married than to be married and believing in God to be single.
37. A broken courtship is better than a failed marriage.
38. Do not marry money or property, marry a person.
39. Be presentable.


For the next 60 seconds, set aside whatever

You’re doing and take this opportunity! Let’s see if Satan

Can stop this.

… … … … THE


At the age of 33,

Jesus was condemned to death .

At the time

Crucifixion was the “worst” death. Only the worst

Criminals were condemned to be crucified. Yet it was

Even more dreadful for Jesus, unlike

Other criminals condemned to death by

Crucifixion Jesus was to be nailed to the

Cross by His hands and feet.

Each nail

Was 6 to 8 inches long.

The nails

Were driven into His wrist. Not

Into His palms as is commonly

Portrayed. There’s a tendon in the wrist that

Extends to the shoulder. The Roman guards knew

That when the nails were being hammered into the

Wrist that tendon would tear and

Break, forcing Jesus to use His back

Muscles to support himself so that He could


Both of His feet

Were nailed together. Thus He was forced to

Support Himself on the single nail that

Impaled His feet to the cross. Jesus could

Not support himself with His legs because of the pain

So He was forced to alternate between arching His

Back then using his legs just to continue to

Breath. Imagine the struggle, the pain, the

Suffering, the courage.

Jesus endured this

Reality for over 3 hours.


Over 3 hours! Can you imagine this kind of

Suffering? A few minutes before He died,

Jesus stopped bleeding. He was simply pouring water

From his wounds.

From common images

We see wounds to His hands and feet and even the spear wound

To His side… But do we realize His wounds

Were actually made in his body. A hammer

Driving large nails through the wrist, the feet overlapped

And an even large nail hammered through the arches, then a

Roman guard piercing His side with a spear. But

Before the nails and the spear Jesus was whipped and

Beaten. The whipping was so severe that it tore the

Flesh from His body. The beating so horrific that His

Face was torn and his beard ripped from His face. The

Crown of thorns cut deeply into His scalp. Most men

Would not have survived this torture.

He had no more blood

To bleed out, only water poured from His


The human adult body contains about 3.5 liters

(just less than a gallon) of blood.

Jesus poured all 3.5

Liters of his blood; He had three nails hammered into His

Members; a crown of thorns on His head and, beyond

That, a Roman soldier who stabbed a spear into His


All these without

Mentioning the humiliation He suffered after carrying His own

Cross for almost 2 kilometers, while the crowd spat in his

Face and threw stones (the cross was almost 30 kg of weight,

Only for its higher part, where His hands were


Jesus had

To endure this experience, to open the

Gates of Heaven,

So that you can have free

Access to God.

So that your sins

Could be “washed” away. All of them, with no exception!

Don’t ignore this situation.



He died for you! It

Is easy to pass jokes or foolish photos by e-mail, but

When it comes to God, sometimes you feel ashamed to forward

To others because you are worried of what they may think

About you.


Has plans for you, show all your friends what He experienced

To save you. Now think about this! May God bless your



Seconds with God…

For the next 60

Seconds, set aside what you’re doing and take

This opportunity! Let’s see if Satan can stop


All you have to do


1. Simply

Pray for the person who sent this message to


2.Then, send this

Message to people.. The more the better.

3. People will

Pray for you and you will make that many people pray to God

For other people.

4. Take a

Moment to appreciate the power of God in your life, for

Doing what pleases Him.

If you are not

Ashamed to do this, please, follow Jesus’ instructions.

He said (Matthew 10:32 & 33): “Everyone therefore

Who acknowledges me before others, I also will acknowledge

before My Father in heaven; but whosoever denies Me

before others, I will deny before my Father in heaven.” Forwarded as received