HOW TO INSTILL POSITIVE ATTITUDES/MANNERS IN YOUR CHILDREN THROUGH SELF EXAMPLE

1. When entering the house, greet your children with hugs and kisses. This should help develop their sense of love, courtesy & intimacy.

2. Be good to your neighbours and never backbite. Never speak ill of others, Your children listen, absorb and emulate.

3. When calling your parents, encourage your children to speak to them. When visiting your parents take your children with you. The more they see you take care of your parents the more they will learn to take care of you.

4. When driving them say to school, don’t always play albums or cds (even if my cds!). Rather, tell them the stories yourself. This will have a greater impact – trust me!

5. Read to them a short story and  even a scripture a day – it doesn’t take much time, but very impactful in creating strong bonds and wonderful memories. 

6. Comb your hair, clean your teeth and wear presentable cloths even if sitting at home and not going out for the day. They need to learn that being clean and tidy has nothing to do with going out! 

7. Try not to blame or comment on every word or action they say or do. Learn to overlook and let go sometimes. This certainly builds their self-confidence.

8. Ask your children’s permission before entering their rooms. Don’t just knock and enter, but then wait for a verbal permission. They will learn to do the same when wanting to enter your room.

9. Apologize to your children if you made a mistake. Apologizing teaches them to be civil, humble and polite.

10. Don’t be sarcastic or make fun of their views or feelings, even if you “didn’t mean it” and was “only joking”. It really hurts.

11. Show respect to your children’s privacy. Its important for their sense of value and self-esteem.

12. Don’t expect that they will listen or understand the first time. Don’t take it personally. But be patient and consistent.

13. Pray with them. Show them how to pray. Lead by example. Let them see you as their role model.

15. Avoid quarreling with your spouse in their presence.

16. Avoid watching TV most especially season films in their presence

17. Once in a while, task your children including the undergraduates, to write  a narrative or short essay for your assessment. By so doing, you’ll know the good writers among your children & how effective they’ve grown in the use of English.

Share with married and singles…..

STORY: HONESTY SEED

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An old King realized that if he died he had no one to take over his throne. He decided to adopt a son.

He launched a competition and 10 boys made it to the top. The King said to them, “I have one last test and whoever comes top will become my adopted son and heir to my throne”.

He gave each boy a seed of corn and told them to take the seed home, plant and nurture it for 3 weeks. The 10 boys took their seeds and ran home to plant their seeds.

In one home, the boy and his parents were sad when the seed failed to sprout. The boy had diligently done everything required but he failed.

His friends advised him to buy a seed and plant it, but his God fearing parents who had always taught him honesty refused.

The day to give account to the King came and the 10 boys went to the palace. All the other 9 boys were successful with their seeds.

The King went to each boy asking – “Is that what came out of the seed I gave you?” And each boy said “Yes, your majesty”. The King would nod and move down the line until he came to the last boy in the line who was shaking with fear.

The King asked him – “What did you do with the seed I gave you?” The boy said “I planted it and cared for it your majesty but it failed to sprout.” The King went to the throne with the boy and said, “I gave these boys boiled seeds and a boiled seed cannot sprout.

If a King must have one quality, it must be honesty and only this boy passed the test.” We live in a society where people will do anything for success.

God sometimes does not give us things because He wants to teach us a lesson.

How many people out there have achieved success the wrong way? How many people send their children to expensive schools, build houses, buy expensive cars, etc, with stolen money?

How many people are occupying top positions yet they stole the certificates? How many people are successful out there at all costs?

HOW MANY PEOPLE WILL BE CROWNED AS KINGS IN HEAVEN FOR BEING FAITHFUL UNTIL THE END? I PRAY THAT YOU AND I BE FAITHFUL TO THE END..!!!

Please be faithful to God no matter what life throws at you, even if life gives you boiled seed.

If you can spare some of your precious time to send this allegory to other people to encourage them to be faithful in their life, please do. And if you don’t have the time now, no problem; just let the message be preached.

WAKE UP PARENTS

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Years back, *poor illiterate  parents* produced
🔹Doctors,
🔹Engineers,
🔹 Scientists,
🔹 Accountants,
🔹 Lawyers,
🔹 Architects,
🔹 Professors..,  whom I will refer to as *Group ‘A’*.

These *Group ‘A’* Children struggled on their own after Primary 6 or Grade 12, to become notable personalities. Most of them
👉trekked to school *barefooted*
👉went to farms
👉fetched water and firewood
👉cared for domesticated animals
👉did some work including trading after school to survive.

Now Group ‘A’ ,who have now become Parents themselves are *producing  Group ‘B’  Children*
These group B children are
🔹pampered
🔹 helped in their homeworks or home assignments from nursery school through secondary schools to higher institutions.
🔹chauffeur driven to very expensive schools or are sent abroad to study. 
🔹they can watch movies from morning till dawn after school.
🔹 they are treated like baby kings and queens.
🔹they don’t do any household chores.
🔹Food is put on the table for them,
🔹their plates are removed and washed by parents or house maids.
🔹They are given expensive cars and clothes,
🔹not forgetting *big pocket money to be wasted* !!!.
🔹Their parents help them in doing their assignments.
🤔 In spite of all these, only few can *speak* or *write* correctly. 🙄

🤔Group ‘A’ Parents  cared for their own *parents* and *children*, Group ‘B’,their Children are still *struggling to find their feet at age 30+*.‼
🤔They find it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being helped to think and doing things by Group ‘A’. So they can’t help themselves, their parents or the society. THEY ABANDON THEIR PARENTS IN THEIR BID TO ACQUIRE THE WORLD

😴 *Where do you belong*❓
🏮Reduce the pampering and the unnecessary help you offer your children.
🏮 Let your children *grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength*.
🏮Let them face the truth and the realities of life. Teach them to grow  to become *independent adults.* Teach them to
👉fear God,
👉respect  others and
👉develop confidence in themselves.
🤔Parents, discipline your children to become disciplined adults, *useful* and not *useless.*

Share with all your loved ones  & make a difference in their lives… :)👍👍

BALANCE

4. Esther received favor to become queen, but she also bathed and prepared her appearance. Preparation is key to become fit for the occasion. Get knowledge, go to school. Stop blaming auto-correct, check your spelling even here on social media. Prepare, because some of us expect nothing but the best from you!

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1. *Noah* built the *ark* by faith but, he used measurements. There is a place for rational thinking in our walk of faith. Not all decisions should be made with blind hope!

2. *Sarah’s pregnancy* was a miracle, but it took nine months just like any other. God’s plans do not negate the importance of process. Sometime you need to wait or work it out.

3. The *stone* that killed *Goliath* might have been anointed, but *David’s skill* was also involved. Developing skills does not mean you are not anointed. If you play a piano, play it to the fullest. Don’t take us through the agony of listening to your cacophony in the name of “singing to the Lord”. Skills are important. There is nothing rude with telling that sister “you can’t sing, find something else to do in the house of God”.

4. *Esther* received favor to become *queen*, but she also bathed and prepared her appearance. Preparation is key to become fit for the occasion. Get knowledge, go to school. Stop blaming auto-correct, check your spelling even here on social media. Prepare, because some of us expect nothing but the best from you!

5. The *promised land* was full of milk and honey, but they also had to plow, feed cattle, and take care of sheep. Miracles are communication tools that God uses to instill trust, faith and the knowledge of his nature. You need to work, don’t expect miracles in a specific area of life all the time. No one pays rent for a full year with miracle money. We need it, we want it, but God wants what is permanent.

6. *God* is the one who *created human capacity* to memorize things, yet he also told many prophets to write their message. Spirituality does not mean we should not use tools to package the message.

7. *Ruth* received favor to marry *Boaz*, but the coaching of Naomi was necessary. Human coaching is necessary, you need to submit and learn from someone. It will spare you from silly mistakes.

8. *Moses* could hear directly from God, but he was wearing himself out with work, it was the wisdom of his father in law that saved him from dying a premature death with exhaustion. It is wisdom to put on a seat belt, brush teeth, and adhere to medical advise. Being spiritual does not mean asking angels to cook food for you!

9. *Namaan* was a mighty soldier and a friend of Kings, but he acted as influenced by a Jewish maiden. Even important people are influenced by”insignificant”people. The key thing is proximity that generates influence.

Mishandling of the natural world can cause hindrance to progress, and a *”total neglect of the spiritual world will definitely cause total failure in all areas of life”*…..

I must tell you… ☝🏽I love that truth❗

*Balance is the key*.